What Is Love, and What Isn’t?

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Love is a strength of nature. However much we may need to, we can not control, demand, or take away it, any more than we can control the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our notions. We may have amazing limited ability to change the climate, but we do so at the prospect of upsetting an ecological balance we don’t fully grasp. Similarly, we can stage a violation or mount a courtship, but the issue is more likely to be love, or two images dancing together.

Love is more important than you are. You can attract it, but you cannot command how, when, and where it shows itself. Decide to quit to it or not, but in the end, it hits like lightning: variable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself caring people you don’t like at all. It does not come with limitations, specifications, addenda, or codes. Like the sun, it radiates freely of our fears and hopes.

Love is essentially free. It cannot be purchased, sold, or exchanged. You cannot make someone choose you, nor can you check it — not for any all of the money. It cannot be committed, nor can it be enacted. It is not a thing, not a product, not even a commercial power source. Love has no boundary, no borders, no quantifiable size or energy output.

It cannot be committed, nor can it be enacted. Love is not a thing, not a product, not even a commercial power source. Love has no boundary, no borders, no quantifiable size or energy output.

What makes it Special?

One can buy love partners and even wedding partners. Marriage is a matter for the law, for governments and courts and property rights. In the past, the wedding price, or property, and in the present, support and the pre-nuptial agreement, make it clear that friendship is all about contracts. But as we all know, weddings, whether planned or not, may have little to do with love.

Sexual stimulation and pleasure, whether by way of fingers, mouths, objects, fancy play, straps, and chains, or just plain sex, can certainly be bought and sold, not to name related to sell other things. Whether sex should be for sale is another topic entirely, but it itself cannot be exchanged.

One can get loyalty, friendship, attention, and perhaps even empapsthy, but love itself cannot be bought. An orgasm can be bought, but it can not. It happens, or not, by grace, of its own will and in its timing, subject to no human’s preparation.

Love cannot be used on as a reward. It cannot be switched off as a punishment. Only something else playing to be love can be used as a fake, as a hook, for bait and switch, followed, insinuated, but the real deal can never be achieved if it doesn’t spring freely from the heart.

This doesn’t mean that it provides destructive and offensive behaviours to go unchecked. Love speaks out for justice and compliant when harm is being done. It points out the importance of hurting oneself or others. Love allows room for violence, grief, is rpar or pain to be revealed and released. But love does not advance to withhold itself if it doesn’t get what it needs.

Love cares what displays of you, because it knows that we are all interconnected. Love is naturally kind and empathic. It knows that the “other” is also oneself. This is the reliable nature of it, and it itself cannot be handled or restrained. It honors the independence of each soul.

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